Helping kids develop socially acceptable behavior, self-control, and character is our most important job as parents – and the most difficult.
Why do kids or teens misbehave?
- Low Self-Esteem
- Feelings of Neglect
- No Positive Role Models
- Adult expectations are too high
- School Failures
- Not Enough Sleep
- Need for Attention-Negative attention may seem better than no attention at all
- Family Changes (Divorce, Stepfamilies, Illness, or Incarceration of a Parent)
How can parents encourage good behavior?
- Be direct, honest, and open.
- Make sure your kids or teens know-in words they can understand-exactly what’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable.
- Set realistic limits. Don’t be afraid to say no.
- Be consistent. Reward good behavior with praise, hugs, kisses and privileges.
- Handle misbehavior with reasonable punishment related to the misconduct.
- Always let kids or teens know why they are being punished.
- Always let them know you love them, even when they disappoint you.
- Think before you speak.
- Be sensitive to your child’s feelings.
- Have a conversation time everyday. Talk about your kid’s or teen’s day. Talk about your day. Create open communication.
- Always know where your kid or teen is and who they are with.
Praise Phrases, Try some!
- You’re number one!
- Great job!
- Well done!
- You can do it!
- Super job!
- Thanks for being honest.
- I’m so proud of you!
- I love you!
Suggested Readings For Parents and Children:
- What Kids Need To Succeed: Proven, Practical Ways To Raise Good Kids (Book for Parents)
- The Pearls Of Love and Logic For Parents And Teachers (Book for Parents)
- Children: The Challenge. The Classic Work On Improving Parent-Child Relations (Book for Parents)
- Self-Esteem: A Family Affair (Book for Parents)
- How To Talk So Kids Will Listen, And Listen So Kids Will Talk (Book for Parents)
- Good Kids, Difficult Behavior-A Guide To What Works And What Doesn’t (Book for Parents)
- 13 Steps To Help Families Stop Fighting And Solve Problems Peacefully (Book for Parents)
- Go To Your Room-Consequences That Teach (Book for Parents)
- Get Out Of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me And Cheryl To The Mall? A Parent’s Guide To The New Teenager (Book for Parents)
- Parenting Teens With Love and Logic (Book for Parents)
- When Parents Love Too Much: Freeing Parents and Children To Live Their Own Lives (Book for Parents)
- Bringing Up Parents: The Teenager’s Handbook (Book for Teens)